Let's talk about the Kaylor "fandom"

This post isn't about what you are used to read here, it is abuot something more serious. I've been trying to talk about this topic for a long time, but I've never been on the mood to deal with all the backlash I will definitely get. But after what happened this last weekend, after all the hate Karlie and Josh have received (both from kaylors (the shippers of Karlie and Taylor Swift) and also people who are into politics), it's time to come forward and say something.

I don't like talking about Kaylor on tumblr. Everytime I get an anon from one of them, trying to provoke me and insulting Josh, I always answer with gifs that have nothing to do with it or that express my mood. I've always felt like answering to them, playing their game, it's like showing them we care about their stupid theories and insults, that we feel insecure about Joshlie, that they are winning. And it actually is the opposite way. By trying to convince others and insulting them, you are showing how insecure you are about your "ship".

Josh seems like a really shy guy, an introvert. And most of you, as tumblr users, should know how it feels to be one. There are posts everywhere. It isn't easy. And when you have hundreds of strangers calling you things, like jerk or gay as an insult... it hurts. (I personally love when kaylors use the word gay against him. They praise that they will support Karlie and Taylor if they open up about their sexuality, but then use that sexuality, that word, as an insult. Are we sure the kaylor shippers aren't the homophobic idiots? 🤔).

I don't care he is a billionare we shouldn't feel bad about. Having money doesn't mean it will free you from being depressed or feeling bad about hateful comments. Yes, it helps make things easier. But we all are humans. We all have feelings. It still hurts.

And I don't care about his brother and dad being corrupt. That isn't an excuse to send him hate. That they are a certain way, doesn't make him the same. Grow up people. You can support Real Madrid while your whole family supports Barcelona. You can be a democrat while your family is republican. It isn't that crazy. It is everywhere, out there, on the real world. Josh has done nothing, NOTHING, to make you believe he supports his brother and thinks like he does, to be called evil. Why send him so much hate? Just because he doesn't say anything, because he doesn't condem what his brother has presumably done? You will probably do the same, say nothing and try not to make things worse. And you know it. It is your family.

That goes to those who hate him just for politics. For those-who-must-not-be-named as I call the kaylors... your excuse to hate him is stupid. You don't like him just because he is the reason your ship isn't real. You say you care about politics and worry about Karlie, but you actually don't. Most of you are kids who only like the idea of Karlie and Taylor together. Kids who don't understand a thing and who believe what an anonymous person says on the internet because he or she explains it on a way that makes it looks real and sounds convincing. Like the contract excuse. Kudos to whoever came with it, you should try writing a book or a script for a movie. Or even getting into politics. But it is such a nonsense 😂

 Karlie and Josh aren't as famous as you think. Especially internationally. When they started dating she was no one. Yes, she was the new VS angel and was working with the best designers, but still, only a few knew about her. And Josh probably wasn't known outside New York. Why cover his sexuality? Why not choosing a girl who was actually Jewish, something that will make things easier for the future? Why would a model, who works on the most open minded work field, choose that? Why would the creator of instagram choose to be part of such a thing? Don't you realize how crazy you sound everytime you say their families and all their friends are part of the contract and have to fake liking Josh? Even the most important magazines out there, like Vogue, are part of it too according to you. Even the first daughter is part of it! The first daughter!! Wtf people?😂

You are making a real person, someone who has been dating Karlie for longer than you've known her, feel bad, hurting him, just because a stupid ship. A SHIP. Do you realize how stupid that sounds? And now that you've realize kaylor was never real and never happened, you are so angry and frustrated that you spread hate as if you were throwing candy during a parade. Have you ever thought how Karlie must feel when you tag her on posts where you are insulting her boyfriend? When everytime she checks her social media she has to read your comments? Of course not. You just care about Kaylor, whatever that goes down on the way isn't important.

Saying that her boyfriend looks more feminine than her, hurts. Saying that they hold hands on a weird way, hurts (brand new information: big and small hands don't hold the same way as small hands do). Saying that there is no chemistry between them, hurts (more brand new information: couples don't have to be smiling or holding hands all the time. Or doing all those cheesy things you see on movies or that you saw during Hiddleswift happening all the time). Saying that she looks miserable everytime she is with him, hurts. Saying that their relationship is fake and they are under that stupid contract, hurts. Hating on her sisters or friends because they like Josh's posts on Instagram, hurts. Not being able to post an IG story or a simple post with your boyfriend, or about something amazing that you've done together and would like others to enjoy as well, just because most comments are horrible things about him, hurts. That you only freaking care about a stupid ship before her career and all the great things she does, hurts.

Do you actually think that, if Josh was as evil as you say, Karlie's family and friends wouldn't have said something? You know how close Karlie is to her parents. Do you actually think, that if Josh wasn't good for her, they wouldn't have done something about it? And same with her friends. Derek, who is like a brother to Karlie and who has no problem on saying what he thinks, likes Josh. For God's sake, he is dating one of Josh's closest friends! Jourdan and Toni, who have also known Karlie for years, would have said something against him, but they haven't. And all of them, as the adults they are, can see what I explained earlier, that your family being a certain way, doesn't make you the same.

You don't know Karlie. You don't own her life. She doesn't owe you anything. Stop acting as if you knew better, as if you lived under her bed and knew everything that happens in her life, on her head. Social media isn't the truth. It is a glimpse of reality. And most times, an altered reality to make it look good and appealing. You all are like Jon Snow. You know nothing.

Do you want to know why she isn't on tumblr anymore? It is because of you and all your hate. Do you want to know why she takes breaks from social media and mostly posts about work? It is because of you. Do you want to know why she sometimes looks impersonal on social media? Because it is someone from her team posting for her. She used to love IG, she always said she enjoyed sharing things, but you have made it a place she doesn't enjoy anymore. A place that fans don't enjoy anymore either.

A lot of people have stopped posting because of your bullying. Yes, what you do is bullying. You bully Josh. You bully Karlie. And you bully other fans. People who only want to have a good time. People who used to use tumblr or instagram as a place to be free, to forget about their problems and enjoy Karlie and her work. Even some other fandoms. You've ruined that for them.

You don't know how badly your comments can affect others. "13 reasons why" has been one of the shows of the season. It has showed what bullying can do to someone, how even the tiniest thing can affect you. And that you never know what is going on on someone's life, especially if we are talking about the online world. You've seen me posting on the blog, fangirling about my favourite shows, making jokes... but the truth is that these past months haven't been the best because a close family member of mine was sick and died. I am very lucky, and mean comments by online people don't affect me, I laugh at all of them. But there are others who aren't that lucky. They might be suffering something similar to what happened to me, something more important, maybe less. And your hateful comments, calling things like stupid, "homophobic idiot" or even threatening their lifes and finding out where they live or work, can have a huge impact. And Karlie and Josh are not and exception to this. You don't know what is really happening on their lives. How your comments can affect them.

If you don't like Josh, ignore him. We have this saying in Spain that says: el mejor desprecio es no hacer aprecio. Google it. Use the internet for something useful. And stop being bullies.

And you, Josh and Karlie. Ignore them. Do whatever the hell you want to do. If you want to post a photo of each other or together, do it. Don't care about what a bunch of online people say. I know it can be hard. It is hard. But they don't control your lives. They are YOUR lives. And remember that there are people out there who will always support you. People who have always defended you against those bullies. And, more importantly, people who respect you. Never forget that.